Journal entry by Joanne Negstad — Aug 16, 2018
"The most precious gift that marriage gave me was the constant impact of something very close and intimate, yet all the time unmistakably other, resistant - in a word, real." C. S. Lewis A Grief Observed
This is a very interesting way to think about marriage. "Two shall become one", yet good marriages are not an unhealthy fusion in which the individuals are subsumed into each other. Rather husband and wife remain differentiated each a fully functioning adult. Yet, as Lewis says, "...very close and intimate."
What is "the constant impact of something very close and intimate?" How did Joanne change me? In so many ways she was my teacher. Completing her formal education before we met she brought that wisdom into our relationship. We spent many hours those first years talking about personality, communication, and human relationships, which provided a base for much of my later learning.
How can one begin to asses the impact of a spouse over 50+ years of relationship? This I can say with out a doubt; her impact was huge and it was all good, a blessing to me, she was real!
Blessings,
al
This is a very interesting way to think about marriage. "Two shall become one", yet good marriages are not an unhealthy fusion in which the individuals are subsumed into each other. Rather husband and wife remain differentiated each a fully functioning adult. Yet, as Lewis says, "...very close and intimate."
What is "the constant impact of something very close and intimate?" How did Joanne change me? In so many ways she was my teacher. Completing her formal education before we met she brought that wisdom into our relationship. We spent many hours those first years talking about personality, communication, and human relationships, which provided a base for much of my later learning.
How can one begin to asses the impact of a spouse over 50+ years of relationship? This I can say with out a doubt; her impact was huge and it was all good, a blessing to me, she was real!
Blessings,
al
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