Journal entry by Al Negstad — a minute ago
Last night when I quoted Wolterstaff I didn't stop to think about his statement about people in grief and the need for counseling. His main point was that grief is a natural reaction to loss and not some form of sickness and therefore therapy is not needed. While this is true, grief counseling can be very beneficial in many circumstances. The therapist can be a significant aid to the grieving person in processing the feelings that come with significant loss and can help lead away from unhealthy forms of denial. My understanding of what Wolterstaff was driving at was that grief is the natural response to loss. I'm sorry for leaving the impression that there is no place for grief counseling.
It's not the words it's the relationship. Relationships have been a frequent topic on this blog. As I reflect on this year in the land of grief, I believe that relationships are key to my recovery. What is said is much less important. Assurances invite my scepticism. Occasional words have stuck, e.g., 'the land of grief' as become a defining image. Words that carry compassion and concern are helpful while many assertions and assurances bounce off my shield.
Blessings,
Al
It's not the words it's the relationship. Relationships have been a frequent topic on this blog. As I reflect on this year in the land of grief, I believe that relationships are key to my recovery. What is said is much less important. Assurances invite my scepticism. Occasional words have stuck, e.g., 'the land of grief' as become a defining image. Words that carry compassion and concern are helpful while many assertions and assurances bounce off my shield.
Blessings,
Al
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