Journal entry by Joanne Negstad — Aug 20, 2018
In his book, A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis has an interpreting paragraph about "getting over it." He writes "To say the patient is getting over it after an operation of appendicitis is one thing; after his leg is cut off is quite another. After the operation either the wounded stump heals or the man dies. If it heals, the fierce, continuous pain will stop. Presently he'll get back his strength and be able to stump about on his wooden leg. He has "got over it." But he will probably have recurrent pains in the stump all his life, and perhaps pretty bad ones; and he will always be a one legged man. There will hardly be any moment when he forgets it." pp. 61-62
This seems to me an apt metaphor for the experience of grief. Moments go by, some for rather a long time, when I'm not conscious of the presence of absence, however, I'm still bereft. Getting over it is likely neither possible not even to be desired. She's dead, she's gone, she's not coming back and that is my new reality.
Blessings,
Al
This seems to me an apt metaphor for the experience of grief. Moments go by, some for rather a long time, when I'm not conscious of the presence of absence, however, I'm still bereft. Getting over it is likely neither possible not even to be desired. She's dead, she's gone, she's not coming back and that is my new reality.
Blessings,
Al
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